You can’t help the thoughts…

You can’t help the thoughts…

Hi there

Thanks for popping in. Lots of TV shows this week. Tina is back today at 11am and 3pm with the Pergamano show, which will be delightful as ever. I will highlight the products and art samples down below, but for now I want to talk about something, and I’ll start with this quote for the day.

We can’t help the thoughts that come into our heads,
but we don’t have to voice them all!


I bumped into a lady last weekend who was most distraught. Why ? Somebody on Facebook had said something very unkind and harsh about her, and it really shook her, as it would any of us. I did my best to sooth her, but that kind of cruel criticism really hits the spot, and isn’t easy to shake off. I suggested she block said people, remove them from her “world”. Social Media is so often anything but social!

Why do people knock each other down instead of building each other up? Maybe I’m a dreamer, an idealist, but my core belief is that we humans are here to help each other, not abuse each other.

I’ve taken the hit myself several times over the years. It’s par for the course when you stick your head above the parapets and put yourself out there. At first it really hurt. Now I see it for what it is: sick behaviour. My response has always been no response. No public display of emotion around sick behaviour. Waste of time. Serves no purpose. If you react, then they’ve succeeded in getting to you, and they know it. Conversely, if you don’t react, they don’t get the sick orgasm that they crave. I prefer it that way. Oh. And I block them from my world permanently. Damage limitation I think it’s called.

We do have to protect ourselves from trolls and keyboard warriors. Whilst Facebook etc can be so valuable in connecting people positively, the opposite is also equally true.

Like I said to the lady in question: these people can only get to you if you let them, and you can evict them. Never let them live rent-free in your head! I know for certain they wouldn’t come knocking on her door and have a go! They are people who probably have never made a thing in their lives, or anything of their lives. And they get jealous when women achieve what they have never been able to. Quite sad really, when you think about it.

Enough said.

Back to beautiful Tina! Here’s what’s coming up…absolutely beautiful!

Available in A5sq and A4sq

Here is some superb inspiration from the design team, So many possibilities in these little rounds!

Thank you, wonderful design team!!

I hope you can join our dear friend Tina at 11 and 3 today. Her approach to art is always formidable, and I love how she puts a fresh spin on Linda’s sampler plates.

Love always,

Barb x x x

30 thoughts on “You can’t help the thoughts…

  1. I agree with you Barbara, if you can’t say something good about someone, don’t say it. It is difficult to just let nasty things go over your head. I love these plates and love what the design team have done. I must be more adventurous with using the plates. Looking forward to watching Tina xx.

  2. Totally agree with you Barbara about these people.
    It is so sad that the only way they can do,is answering with such a negatif reaction.
    Hope your day will be filled with sunshine today.

  3. Hello Barbara
    I so agree with you! It is beyond understanding why some people take it upon themselves to ‘police’ other people. Why can’t they live and let live? if something really is wrong just report to the appropriate admin or block the person who doesn’t think like you do.
    All the antagonist does is upset an innocent person and cause a toxic atmosphere throughout the community. Being nasty rarely stays hidden.

    1. In total agreement with you Barbara. Never let them get to you and never answer. That hurts them more than their words hurt you. Block them from your social media. One of the reasons that I have only family and really close friends in mine. Looking to be able to watch Tina at 11 am these plates are lovely.xx

  4. Totally agree, Mum used to say “if you dont have anything nice to say then dont say it!” Something we should all adhere to in this life, might stop a lot of the hurt that is felt in the world. Totally agree the design team have put together some stunning cards again. I’m sure Tina will just make the plates fly off the shelves xx

  5. Morning Barbara! You were certainly up early today!
    It’s sad that people can be so hurtful on Facebook..I’m sure they wouldn’t like it if it was done to themselves!
    The samples are beautiful! Shall look forward to seeing Tina work her wonderful magic! X

  6. I agree with you Barb, I always go by Bambi thumpers rule, if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all. People like that usually have a jealous streak and just need deleting out of your life.

    Can’t wait to have a go at your craft along at the end of next week.

    Zena xxx

  7. So many of our generation live by the ‘if you do have anything good to say, say nothing’ and it is a pity that so many folk don’t. I don’t do social media for that reason and only belong to our safe Clarity groups. Well said BArbara and looking forward to the shows today. X

  8. Totally agree with everything you’ve written, bullies and waste of space! Looking forward to Tina’s shows x

  9. Good morning Barbara, I was always taught “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it” but sadly not everyone takes this view. I think if someone posts on your page, in response to something you have set as a public view rather than private/your friends, you can delete it. I have done that and it just stops you thinking about it going forward. Either that, or as you say, block or report it or both. These people just don’t have lives of their own if they have to be so critical of other peoples lives and to be honest don’t deserve our time. Looking forward to watching Tina later. The samples are so stunning and give those of us less experienced brilliant inspiration.

  10. Morning Barb
    Bullies are sad and pathetic and I totally agree when you say don’t react to them. My mum always said to us “if you’ve got nothing nice to say then keep quiet” and it seems lots of other mums were too!
    The weather is a bit rubbish here today so I’m having a play with some stamps.
    Have a good day everyone.
    Zara xx

  11. Good morning Barbara
    I’ve said it all my life.
    If you have nothing good to say then don’t just don’t say anything at all.
    I often think of Jeannine and all the crap she had to deal with at times bled her she is such a lovely person please give her my best wishes
    I hope your words helped that Lady and she takes something positive away from them
    Hugs 🤗 Happy Easter

  12. It’s sad that there is a culture that has developed in which people feel a need to put others down . I personally think it is very important to thank people and show appreciation. However the majority of people show love and kindness on your sites and support one another.
    Wishing yourself, your family, work colleagues and everyone a very Happy and peaceful Easter xxx

  13. It seems a lot of us were told the same as children by our mom’s. I have always treated people as I would wish to be treated myself. Having worked in a customer facing environment all my life we had to be polite at all times – be it sometimes we felt the complete opposite. Any problems on FB are best dealt with by the block button or the admin team. No good replying to people who are being rude & abusive as it just lets them know you have seen their message. Ignore them & they will move on. All they want is a response.
    Looking forward to watching Tina’s shows later as it is our Groovi meeting day at Bromsgrove so will be off there in a little while. We have some new ladies joining us today so that will be nice to see to see what they are doing & where they are on the bus journey. Lots of chat, swapping hints & ideas & doing some Groovi work as well. 2 hours of chill out time !!
    Lovely designs from the DT again so must dig these plates out & give them another airing.

  14. This is the reason I don’t do social media. The people who post nasty remarks are cowardly bullies with perhaps something wrong in their own lives. I hope your words gave comfort to that lady.
    Linda’s plates are magic to work with, so versatile, and the DT samples are lovely. I will be making a coffee and putting my feet up to watch Tina at eleven as well as recording both programmes because as sure as God made little apples there will be several interruptions.
    Stay safe 🍒

  15. Spot on and well said Barbara – the down side of social media, is best counteracted in the way you have done it. Such sad people are not worth giving any headroom to.
    Beautiful samples again today – So much talent – and such a wonderful community are the lovely Clarity crafters!
    Have a lovely day everyone, and a really blessed Easter! xx

  16. Why on earth do people have to say such cruel things to others! I tend to think they are just jealous. My phycologist calls them ‘phycic Vultures’ they circle, look for vulnerability and then go in for the kill. It’s them that have the problems, not us, so we shouldn’t waste our precious time even thinking about them! We should pity them for being like that and just move on. Grrrr I’ve gone off on one now! 🤣 Bloomin people!!

  17. Some people are so unkind but luckily they are in the minority. It was lovely that she met you Barbara. Just watching Tina now. She is a joy to watch.

  18. “Trolls” and “Keyboard Warriors” are such good titles for these people. Their nasty comments say way more about them than the person they hurt though, don’t you think? I completely agree with you that they shouldn’t be allowed to live rent free in your head but sometimes it’s easier said than done to ignore it. Unkind words can have such a massive impact on that one person who is feeling vulnerable…or sad…..or upset about something. The answer is….BE KIND ALWAYS.

  19. Well said Barbara! These people are just cowardly bullies and should be ignored. Easier said than done, I know, but as you say, they are fishing for a reaction. So to totally ignore them ruins the game for them. I too was always told to keep quiet if I had nothing nice to say. Maybe it’s a generational thing? xx

  20. I always find its the people with very sad lives, that get involved with the gossips and people who really don’t think that the words that come out of their mouth can really damage others emotionally. I find it hard working with people of that ilk and choose to go out on my breaks to walk and catch up with our wonderful kind crafty friends on the Clarity sites.
    Wishing everyone a Happy Easter what ever you are doing.
    And I hope that lady realises its their problem and their bad attitude and although hurtful, they should just be ignored.xx

  21. Well said. I actually feel sorry for these trolls and keyboard warriors imagine living such a pathetic life. Get your own back and ignore them no matter how hard that might be. Love the art work that Tina always comes up with, she always makes it seem achievable. xx

  22. I totally agree with you Barbara, well said! 👏 nothing nice to say scroll on, we don’t need any negativity.
    These plates are among some of my favourites, I love them!
    Take care xx

  23. Beautiful inspiration from the design team. Will all Tina to my ‘to catch up’ list. Going for a walk later to make up for the rainy day miss.

  24. Well said. Love the statement about not letting the bad people live rent free in your head.

    I don’t do pergamano art but the samples and work of others is beautiful and I admire what they can do.

  25. I agree with all the things everyone else has said. I don’t do social media because of all the bad things that seem to happen on there. I forgot to record Tina’s shows today so will have to watch on catchup as I love these plates.
    Love and hugs

  26. Hi Barbara
    This is why I will never do Facebook it is too destructive. I appreciate it can be useful but those that troll would never say it to your face. It makes me angry that people who are helping others are destroyed but comments. I have just started to help out at a dementia club I’m not doing it for recognition but can spare the time and to feel humbled by people who struggle just to get up in the morning. If people used their time constructively rather than trying to destroy people confidence the world would be a much better place. Sorry about the rant but feel better for it.
    Love the quote very true.
    Love Ruth & Jackie xx

  27. “Never let them live rent free in your head”. Need a stamp/stencil or a T shirt with this quote. 💗💗💗

  28. Hello Barb, a very insightful blog post. Words can be so damaging. The old saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me”, is not true, very often words are more damaging than physical injury. Thank you for your kindness as always. Great quote, and I agree with Robin, that is a brilliant idea. Love the samples from the DT, Tina always has a load of inspiration. Take care everyone. Bx

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