Thanks for popping in. Woke up this morning, and actually had nothing specific to do – apart from this ’ere blog, of course! Dave had to work, so the day was mine to use as I pleased. Of course I have always got enough work to more than fill all my days forever and ever! Clarity Towers is always there, looming in the background! But I am trying to avoid work at the weekends unless absolutely necessary. I did way too many years of mostly 7 days a week, and now I realise that the weekends are there for a reason. We all need to switch off, pump the brakes, do something different. Even doing nothing is doing something!
But back to today…I could do some pottery, I could potter in the house, I could go to the Farmer’s market in the Pantiles/Tunbridge Wells. MMM…choices choices…. Then Mum came into my head. Sorted. Instantly, I had a very specific plan, and a pleasant one too.
So I packed the car with all sorts of provisions that Mum always needs, and trundled off to Gillingham. I knew she’d be at home alone, and I also knew she’d enjoy some company. I couldn’t think of anybody I’d rather spend my day with either.
She was indeed delighted to see me. We sat and chatted for hours, drank tea and coffee, tried the lovely German sourdough loaf I brought to the party, and the German smoked ham – it was like being transported back to North Germany, where I was born. Tastes and smells can do that, can’t they? So we took a little trip down Memory Lane, which was also very cathartic. Talked fondly about Dad, went back in time, to when he was happy and healthy, and all was well. We were so lucky to have a dad like Dad.
The sun even came out for us – albeit briefly !
But this was not a Daughter-Duty Day today. No, no! This was genuinely a desire to spend quality time with Mum.
I know that many of you will be reading this, and will be wishing your Mum were still around, and that you could hang out with her, and drink tea, and have a good old chinwag. I get it. I really do. And I wish it were so for you. I have a future memory of that time, and have had for years. What I wouldn’t give for a chat with Dad now.
Also, I hate to think of Mum sitting alone, day in day out. She is a loner, and certainly copes very well with her own company. But I do know she enjoys having her kids around. Brother Steve visits her often too, and phones her every day, which she loves. They are very close.
Quote of the day today?
Time to chill. What are your plans for this weekend?
See you on Monday at 10am in the SHAC. That’s when the old SHAC bus is leaving the Depot again!
Barb x x x