Let’s keep it in today

Let’s keep it in today

Hi there

Thanks for popping in. Can’t think of anything uplifting or positive to say today, so I shall just offer up Quote #14

Let’s keep it in today

All that happened today stays in today. Good and Bad. Tomorrow is another bright fresh day. Another blank canvas!

Why don’t you come in and take the reins? Help me out? Tell us something positive. Give us something to smile about. People read the posts and messages just as much as they read the blog – believe me. So take the opportunity to say it out loud.

Thank you also, for all the beautiful condolence cards! So thoughtful, such kind words.

Debbie McMullin

Love always,

Barb x x x

47 thoughts on “Let’s keep it in today

  1. Those we love don’t go away
    They walk beside us every day
    Unseen, unheard but always near
    Still loved and missed and very dear.


  2. The Pottery Showdown is on tv tomorrow, positively looking forward to that.
    Also positively delighted to have picked up a Clarity Club stamp for 75p in a charity shop!!

  3. Hi Barb,
    My positive is that my football team, Southampton, have won three games in a row. Still bottom of the premier league but it’s nice to remember that it feels good to win a game. Picture me jumping up and down and cheering in my front room, listening to the radio – that’s got to make you giggle!
    Hang in there, it does get easier in time.
    Lots of love
    Zara xx

  4. i lost my Father as I was due to start school remember it so well. Lost my Mum in my 50s. Doesn’t matter the age its very hard. my girls lost their Dad in 30s and still hard. take it all daily only way. xx

  5. Oh, dear Barbara, how I wish to take away your pain! ‘Every day may not be good … but there’s something good in every day’ (Alice Morse Earle) – it’s a positive thought that certainly helps me cope with the loss of my beloved husband not that long ago. So much love goes out your way from so many of your devoted followers – may it carry you, and your family, through this difficult time. We all have an inner strength, and you are certainly one strong, lovely lady.
    Best love xx

  6. As the anniversaries come and the seasons come and go, the happy memories stay. Remember the happy days. Love to you and the family

  7. Remember the good times and the wonderful memories you spent together, they are so precious. it does get easier with time, but remember your dad, will always be in your heart.
    love and hugs xxx

  8. Your dear Dad will always be with you in your heart and memories. The time was right for him to move on and he will be at peace now. Be kind to yourself at this difficult time, time heals all wounds and remember one day at a time….
    Much love

  9. 9 hours in a and e with mum but we worked out why her blood pressure was so high. Blister pack had wrong dose of tablets. Only happened for third time. Positive is I was able to bring her back home at 1.30 in the Morning and I’ve had a snoozy afternoon under the duvet. Needed that!

    Planning a crafty day tomorrow!

  10. There are so many people out there sending you their love and thoughts to you and your family , that too must give your heart a lift.
    Many arms are out there giving you a hug so be kind to yourself and
    treasure the memories.

    1. Mine too! They look stunning even in the rain. I have spotted the blue tits checking out the nesting boxes too. Spring is indeed coming x

  11. I went to the local supermarket today. It was heaving with people doing their Saturday shopping. Queues everywhere at the tills. I managed to get In a very short queue with my trolley. When I spotted a little old lady with just a basket and a few items in a queue with shoppers their trolleys absolutely laden with their goods. So I signalled to her and she came over to me so I told her she could go in front of me with her basket. She was so grateful and said now I know why I don’t come shopping on a Saturday. So Saturdays are ‘In day’ for her. ❤️

    1. I let people in front of me if they only have a few things. When they say thank you I always tell them to ‘pass it on” ie to do it for someone else later. We need more kindness and thoughtfulness in the world x

  12. Positives today:
    Getting my friend set up on her ipad (this is the second technophobe I’ve done it with!)
    Have the cats around me (and hubby!)
    Remembering my Dad today (think of him every day and he’s been gone 8 years now)

    And this is one of my favourite verses (apart from Death is Nothing at all) xxx

    I am standing on the seashore.
    A ship sails to the morning breeze and starts for the ocean.
    She is an object – and I stand watching her
    Till at last she fades from the horizon,
    And someone at my side says, “She is gone!” Gone where?
    Gone from my sight, that is all;
    She is just as large in the masts,
    hull and spars as she was when I saw her,
    And just as able to bear her load of living freight
    to its destination.
    The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me,
    not in her;
    And just at the moment when someone at my side says,
    “She is gone”,
    There are others who are watching her coming,
    And other voices take up a glad shout,
    “Here she comes” – and that … is dying.”
    -Bishop Brent

  13. It may be cold and wet outside, the rain and wind beating on the window pane. Three rainbows I’ve seen today, each one brings a smile to my face. Should I go out and brave the weather?. The shoppings been done and I missed the huge rain shower that came with it. So my today’s positive is rainbows a cuppa a full fridge and warm home.
    Lovely card from Deb, I knew it was hers before I even scrolled down.
    Big hugs and lots of love.

  14. Something my brother wrote in the book of condolence when my father died. He lived for those he loved and those he loved remember. I don’t know where it came from but you will always remember the good times you had with your Dad .xx

  15. Grief is the price we pay for love. I lost my lovely Dad (90) in September after breaking his hip in a fall and then his dementia worsened. I think he just gave up. It was all so sudden and has left a huge gap. I think it just takes time so one day at a time Barbara. Sending much love to you and your family

    1. So true Jane, and coincidentally that is exactly what happened to my Dad. He passed away aged 90 in November after breaking his hip in a fall. His dementia also worsened. He refused to eat and drink. The doctors told me he had given up. It is so hard, but it is a case of taking one day at a time. There will be good and bad days. Sending much love to you and Barbara.

  16. Something positive for the day. My beautiful, funny 7 yr old granddaughter called me today on FaceTime to play Vets. She is so funny. She pretends to be the Vet and I have to tell her who made the appointment and how my cat is. She even sits at the laptop pretending to take notes. She always makes me smile xx

  17. “Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.”

  18. Positives….
    My cholesterol is under control now
    My diabetes is reversing, just dropped into the normal range
    My weight is going down – hooray!!!!!!
    The carcinoma on my cheek just below my eye is benign and treatable
    What’s not to be happy about? Things seem to be on the up.
    Try to be positive and remember the good times with your Dad.
    Hugs 🍒

    1. The sun always comes back again. I read this in a novel years ago when I had depression and it has stayed with me over the years – however dark things might be, we must have that assurance in sight that things will get better again. Much love xx

  19. My best friend’s daughter, who has recently recovered from breast cancer, is doing a live radio interview with Lord Spencer on Monday, to talk about the new Macmillan unit at Kettering hospital. She has really been giving back for the kindness she received and she is a wonderful girl. XX

  20. Tomorrow is another day. As a child learns to walk. It’s small steps. You will soon be up and running but you never forget.
    Here in Devon it stopped raining and the sun came out. Sending love Xxx

  21. I love reading your blog & everyone’s comments that follow. Reading them over the last few days there are lots of positives but there are a few people who also need a big hug from us all & that is the great thing about being part of the Clarity Family.
    Having read Grace’s blog this morning she is looking forward to getting back home to you on Wednesday & no doubt you feel the same.
    Carry on doing what needs to be done but leave the things that don’t matter for now. I read a great quote somewhere the other day but can’t for the life of me find it again. I did mention it on one of my posts during the week but its worth mentioning it again ”Don’t count the Days – Make the Days Count”
    A big hug to all those that are in need of one xx

  22. We are all here because of you, Barb. You not only created your kids, but also an infinite global family. Hugs xoxo

  23. I’ve always liked this quote …
    Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and loved more than you know.
    (from Winnie the Pooh)
    You and certainly loved by many Barbara ❤

  24. My grandson asked me why I had short hair. I asked him if he would prefer me to have it long like his mum, auntie and other grandma. No – he said – you are perfect as you are- then carried on playing his game on his phone! Brought a happy tear to my eye bless him.
    Don’t try to rush getting over this Barbara. The bus is going nowhere without you as you have the keys. The passengers will patiently wait whilst holding you in their hearts xx

  25. Barbara,
    Some days words fail. That’s when loving thoughts and happy memories take over. Just remember the Clarity family is here giving help, support and virtual hugs to all. Stay safe and when ready— start crafting! (or dancing if you want)! Love Susan.

  26. My positive for today was to make a card for a friend’s birthday next week, he’ll be 70 as will I in June! We’ve known each other since school, and have had many good times. Something different, I thought, maybe some paper piecing. I’ve had a go at Barb’s “Trap the Scrap” a few times, but not actually glueing the individual little pieces into place. I carefully took the bits of card out of the die, and arranged them on my craft mat ready to add them to the die cut frame. You know what, it’s not really a good thing to suddenly sneeze at that moment! Re-cutting the pieces is a lot quicker than scrambling on your hands and knees looking for little pieces of coloured card – I finally decided 20 minutes later! I hope my friend likes his birthday card!
    Take care, Barb.

  27. Hi Barbara
    I was thinking today which in itself is not a good thing but here goes. My niece is across the pond like Grace and Mark only at uni in Cleveland Memphis, she sent a picture of herself doing a jigsaw on the floor of her room, just as I was doing one on the kitchen table and I thought what a small world this is. Although i have to admit I miss her.
    I know this mundane but that’s good sometimes stops you thinking too much. Jackie is off Morris dancing tomorrow it is wassailing time in Somerset must wake the apple trees up otherwise no cider god forbid🤣
    Still in our thoughts
    Love Ruth and Jackie xx

  28. Not having been out in my garden for weeks I ventured there for my daughter’s puppy to ‘spend’. What a delight to find the snowdrops were hanging their heads. A positive sign that Spring is on the way. Just be sure there are so many of us uplifting you and your family throughout this sad period but one day the sadness will be filled with gladness that you did indeed have your Dad and he has left so many happy memories to be taken out and delighted in xx

  29. Barbara
    It does take time, lost a daughter and now my husband and best friend, I know every bit of pain you are feeling and feel it for you, it does get easier I promise but takes time. Smile and think of good times with him and how lucky to have been to have such a great person in your life.

  30. January is always a tough month even without anything else happening!
    January is just 31 days and we will soon be in the lighter evenings and better weather😁
    I am looking forward to riding my bike to work(shift a few of the Christmas pounds) it’s like magic, it energises me for the day and on the ride home I leave work somewhere between work and home.
    In the meantime it’s a great time to get in my craft room💕

  31. Whenever I miss my Dad (been gone over 25 years) I remember that end scene in the film with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore when he says you always carry the love with you in your heart so it never goes away. The pain you are feeling now will eventually ease but you will never lose the love.

  32. My positives are looking at my 4 dogs, when the desperately what to go out and I don’t, but always give in 🙂

  33. Hi Barb,
    I know exactly how you are feeling having lost both of my wonderful parents. All I can say is that the pain does go and is replaced with wonderful memories. The love that you have for your dad and that he had for you will never die – he will be with you always in your heart. One of the nicest quotes I can say is actually one of your older stamps – “Count your garden by the flowers, never by the leaves that fall; Count your day by golden hours, don’t remember clouds at all”.
    Today I am taking part in a virtual watercolour class – trying to fulfil my resolution to learn to paint. Mind you, it would help if I could draw!! My art teacher would be laughing his socks off thinking of me doing painting – I was absolutely useless!!
    Take care, it will get better. Sending love and hugs to you and all the family, Alison xxxx

  34. Dear Barb, you will always have those special memories to hold close in your heart. Those that leave us, never truly leave us. There is always a gentle guiding touch. Sending hugs. Bx

  35. You will always have the good and joyful memories of your Dad and they will far outweigh the sadness you feel in this moment. Remember the stories and share them… Love and hugs.

  36. Hi Barbara
    Just think of the good times you had with your Dad and the stories your shared. He is at peace now.

    This poem was read at my Mum’s funeral and still brings tears to my eyes, even after 25 years. I don’t know where it came from but many friends know it as well, the words are very comforting.

    Do not stand at my grave and weep
    I am not there, I do not sleep
    I am a thousand winds that blow
    I am the diamond glints on snow
    I am the sunlight on ripened grain
    I am the soft, refreshing rain.
    When you awaken in the morning’s hush
    I am the swift uplifting rush
    Of quiet birds in circled flight
    I am the soft stars that shine at night
    Do not stand by my grave and cry
    I am not there, I did not die.

    Off to make a card for a cousin’s 80th with one of your fantastic dies or stamps, not sure which one yet.

    Sending you lots of love.

  37. My positive thought is that my Son is coming home for his birthday next month and bringing his wife and our new Grandson who will be 6 months old. He is such a happy little chap and brings me much joy. If I am feeling a bit down I just watch a video of him chuckling, It’s early days Barbara, Take care.

  38. Dear Barbara, only just seen this as I’ve not been on FB for a few days. As you may remember, I lost my dad almost 4 years ago. It happened suddenly and I couldn’t say goodbye to him as I was over here. It was a horrible time but all the happy memories did help me . Four years on, thinking of my Dad still makes me smile and remembering the often crazy things he did still make me laugh. Would you believe, I even talk to him sometimes. So yes, take all the time you need to grieve and then walk out in the sun again knowing that your dad will still always be with you – in your heart! That’s my positive thought for you from me. Sending hugs and lots of love to you and your family and especially your lovely Mum. xxx

  39. Grief is the price we pay for loving other people and… to love another person is to see the face of God.
    What love you have known from your dad – and that will remain with you for ever. Nothing is more positive than a happy childhood and loving parents. Bless you Barbara, and the family at this sad time

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