Thanks for popping in. Do you ever struggle to stay upbeat and positive? I do. Don’t you just wake up some days, think of what’s going on, and just want to roll over, pull the covers over your head and tell them all to go do one? Problem with that solution is that it serves very little purpose. In fact, all it does – apart from letting you lie in bed alone, grinding your teeth (don’t mention teeth to me!) and getting your teeth into people (stop it with the teeth !) who can’t even defend themselves – is put off the day’s reality. It’s all still piling up outside your bedroom door, waiting for you, and the irritants are doing press ups in the back garden – waiting for you.
But. Sometimes there’s just so much going on, so much to deal with, so many people getting on your pip, it just robs you of your sense of humour!! Thing is though, THIS TOO SHALL PASS, believe me !!! Which brings me to our daily quote. Quote #5:
It’s a well known coping mechanism, and it works for me. When things are getting me down, I have a choice. I can feed the fire, as it were, or I can starve it; I can pretend everything is fine. Fake it.
Now you may think that’s not being true to yourself, that’s not allowing you to be you, that it’s okay to not be okay, and you’re probably right. But – and I can only speak for myself – I find my days are far more pleasant when I pretend to be ok, and not – as Farmer Dave puts it – turn into a Muck spreader of doom and gloom! After a while (it doesn’t take long at all) I find my spirits lifted and I’m feeling better. Actually, it works when I’m alone or in a crowded room.
Example. Most mornings nowadays I wake up sad. I haven’t slept well. That’s the truth. I lie awake in the dark. My Dad is weighing heavily on my mind. Then everything else comes crowding in: work, people, the future, the NHS, the state of the nation – nay, the world! Alarm goes off. Now comes the choicepoint. Let’s consider 2 scenarios.
I can share the load, tell Dave what a rotten night I’ve had, and how I’m worried about Dad, that I’m feeling really low, because everything is going wrong. Boom. It’s not even 6am and I’ve already set the scene for the day.
Or I can smile, and say “Good Morning Dave. Did you sleep well?”. He will usually say, “Not bad, thanks. Until about 5. And you?” and I will reply “same”. He then says, “Right. Let me go put the kettle on, and let’s have some tea.” You see, we are both playing Fake it to Make it. And it works, it really does. I know full well Dave has been lying in the dark next to me wide awake, worrying about all the things that need doing at work; and he knows that I am sad. But we fake it to make it.
Is that being false? I would prefer to call it considerate. Or easier. Or lighter. Guess what? It doesn’t take long before the clouds pass, and my better mood is not fake at all. All I have done, quite simply, is redirect my thinking, avoid the pity pot, and pretend things are okay. Until they are.
I’ve done it most days for as long as I can remember – it has served me well. Try it some time.
We’ve got a sticker booklet packed with quotes . I compiled it during lockdown. Here’s a little challenge to those of you who already have the little book. Is Fake it to Make it included? I can’t say from here. I bet it is though…
These are little projects I made for the ClarityStamp Club a while ago. It was a really cool grunge scene builder stamp CLICK HERE.
If fact, there are a few grunge backdrops and build a tree-scene issues you might enjoy. CLICK HERE
That’ll do for today. I’m glad you’re glad about the daily blog again. And I read and appreciate your comments too. Every one.
Barb x x x