Sunday 14th – 11 Days to Christmas

Sunday 14th – 11 Days to Christmas

Hi there,

Happy Sunday. How are you?
This 100-day countdown has certainly been picking up speed, hasn’t it? And in December there always seem to be several countdowns running in parallel.

You’ll certainly have heard the word Advent. Most of us think first of Advent calendars – 24 little windows, one opened each day in December, often with a chocolate reward inside.

But here at our little farmhouse, we uphold a different tradition, one my Mum passed on to me – the Adventskranz. Literally translated, that means Advent wreath. Ours isn’t actually a wreath, but a lovely brass star. I bought it decades ago when I lived in Nürnberg, and it comes out every year.

First things first – let’s say it properly in German.
Ready?

Add-VENTS-Kruntz.
The emphasis is on VENTS.
It sounds rather stroppy, doesn’t it? Say it out loud. Perfect.

Now that we’ve mastered the pronunciation, what does it symbolise?

The word Advent comes from the Latin adventus, meaning “coming” or “arrival”. In the Christian calendar, Advent marks the period of waiting and preparation before Christmas, traditionally covering the four Sundays leading up to it.

More broadly – and how many people understand it today – Advent has come to mean:

  • a time of waiting
  • a period of anticipation
  • a deliberate slowing down before an arrival

Candles, calendars and wreaths are simply ways of marking time – not rushing forwards, but moving gently towards something that’s coming.

I like that idea very much. A slower pace. Not the frenetic chaos I see everywhere at the moment.

Yesterday I spent the entire day at home – cleaning, decorating, making the bedrooms lovely – in anticipation of Grace and Mark coming home on Tuesday. Read another way: I didn’t leave the house. I didn’t step beyond the gate. I didn’t join the Christmas shopping crowds. And I shall do the same today, except I will blog, write the Club newsletter, wrap a few gifts. I was even thinking about firing up the kiln one last time…bit of glazing required first…

I haven’t turned into a bah-humbug on the shopping front – I’ve just decided to wait until next weekend, and actually enjoy it with the kids. They love Christmas shopping in Tunbridge Wells and Lewes – it’s their Memory Lane – so I love it too when I’m with them.

Back to the Add-VENTS-Kruntz.

See the little angel musicians in the centre? They were a gift from my Mum. They’re very old, handmade in the Erzgebirge region of Germany, and among my most treasured possessions. Over the years, Mum and I gifted each other one ornament at a time – they’re expensive, so the collection grew slowly.

Mum has a whole Bayerische Kapelle at home – a full Bavarian band. I remember one year she was devastated after cleaning them with the wrong detergent and accidentally removing some of the paint. She painstakingly repainted them with the tiniest brush imaginable. That only makes them more precious to me now.

Lighting a candle each Sunday in the lead-up to Christmas feels as important as spending time in the company of these little figures. They represent my past, my history, my lineage.

So today we light the second candle…or the third? Nah! that would infer that we‘re only a week away!

I like the pacing of it. Advent isn’t something to rush — it unfolds week by week. One light at a time.

It also makes me think about the many traditions people hold at this time of year, shaped by where they grew up or what they’ve carried into adulthood. Some are religious, some cultural, some entirely made up. Some are carefully preserved; others quietly fade away.

For some it’s candles.
For others it’s food, music, carol singing, walks, certain films – or simply a pause before Christmas begins in earnest.

I’m always interested in these small personal rituals. They say a lot about how we mark time, and what matters to us. Who we are.

So if you feel like sharing:
do you have a particular Advent or Christmas tradition — or none at all?

The four Advent candles traditionally represent Hope, Peace, Joy and Love.

Wishing you a peaceful 2nd/3rd Advent Sunday.

Barb xxx

36 thoughts on “Sunday 14th – 11 Days to Christmas

  1. What a beautiful, calm and peaceful way to reflect leading up to Christmas. I have something similar that has been part of our family since before I was born. I was the youngest of five and I’m now 63. I have a little carousel of angels, that have 4 candles at each corner. As you light each one the angels begin to turn from the warmth of the candle and the angels hold a little stick that rings a bell as they pass by. It wouldn’t be Christmas without it…I’ll treasure it forever xXx

  2. Morning Barb
    When I was a head teacher we had an advent wreath with four candles, one extra lit each week in advent, which I really liked. Now I always have an advent candle which is lit every day in December.
    I love the little figures on your star, how beautiful. I too am in all day today. I should be cleaning but I’ll probably spend more time crafting! My stamp club envelope arrived on Friday so I need to have a play.
    Enjoy your day and see you in the Shac tomorrow.
    Zara xx

  3. Every year since our eldest daughter was born no matter the weather we have been to Pooh sticks bridge in Hartfield to play Pooh sticks. 36 years later, along with daughter No 2 and 1st Grandchild the tradition is still going strong. Both girls have said it’s the start of the Christmas celebrations for them & can’t imagine not going.

    1. How charming! And we only live round the corner from Pooh Bridge! Maybe I’ll go with Grace and Mark this Christmas. It’s never too late xxx

  4. I love your star with the angel figurines & four candles. Advent is strange this year because Advent Sunday was 30 November & we had a Carol Service in Church. Not the carols as most of us know them but those preparing us for the start of the Christian new year & the coming of Jesus on Christmas Day. Last Sunday a member of the congregation went up to light the 2nd candle as part of the Church Family.
    When our children were small we had the chocolate Advent calendars but as a child myself we only had the ones with pictures of the people or animals involved with the Nativity with the stable being the last one. We have a wooden nativity set which I built from a kit by Ali Reeves from Stamps Away that comes out every year.
    This year, not feeling 100% & also moving I have felt the most un Christmassy ever – a very strange feeling but other than cards & presents for immediate family I am just not in the mood yet. Hopefully by the 25th I will be feeling more like it.
    Have a fabulous time with Grace & Mark coming home on Tuesday – shopping altogether will be great fun I am sure xx

    1. Yes, I know it’s officially the 3rd Advent today. But in our house it’s only the second Sunday in December, as you say. Next Sunday we’ll light the 3rd candle, and then the 4th one on Christmas Eve.

      1. That makes sense as well. Its nice that you keep the German tradition of celebrating Christmas Eve or is it a European tradition ? As you say there are many things that families do over Christmas that means something special to them. It good to pass these on down through the generations so those customs are not lost x

  5. This sounds so
    Lovely. I remember making the Blue Peter advent crown as a child. Now I think about it fire accident waiting to happen. But I loved watching the presenters at the time counting down to Christmas. Simple pleasures. Enjoy !!!

  6. What a lively tradition to have, we don’t really have anything similar. My daughter loves the build up to Christmas and I have made her a few advent calendars. A few years ago she was really struggling with life and working with very sick children at Great Ormond Street so I decided to sew her an advent calendar. Each day you take a felt animal or shape out of the pocket and hang it on the pocket it came out of. I can’t remember how long it took to make but she’s still using it, then another year I made one for a friend. This year I made a flip one out of tags which she loves and my baby granddaughter seems to be loving it as well.
    We live in the north of Scotland and so shopping mayhem isn’t a problem here, I was hoping to get down to Edinburgh but my husband has a bad back and so I do want to leave him. I’ve knitted my son a football scarf for his team and really haven’t bought many presents. I just love having some of the family at home and spending time with them.

  7. We have a wooden tree with 4 candles which we light each Sunday evening. I too was surprised when Advent Sunday was in November but it must be every year. Completely forgot to light the candles last week, though. This evening we are singing at the church where our choir meets (Carol of the Bells, what an amazing sound!) so I’ll have to remember when we get home after the service.
    Wonder what you have in mind for the SHAC tomorrow. Xx

  8. Lovely read as always Barb. I’m not feeling very Christmassy this year. It’s the 2nd xnas without my mum and we decided to go away so fly out on 23 dec to the Dominican Republic where we will cruise for a week and then have a further week in the island just chilling. First cruise I’ve been in so hoping it will be good 🥰

  9. Traditions of Christmas are what makes it for me and it’s lovely to hear about yours and others. I have a metal advent candle decoration like Penny but haven’t had it out for over 20 years, so I will endeavour to find it. The traditions in my village centre around Christmas events: we had late night shopping evening on the 5th where the high street is closed to traffic and stalls are erected selling food, drink, local crafts and raise funds for charity. Local musical groups perform and all the shops are open until 8pm. Unfortunately this year it was very wet and windy but still a success, although I had to miss out through illness.
    Fortunately I’m recovered enough for the next tradition, my musical society’s Christmas show. Not up for a solo song, I’m performing a comic poem which was well received at yesterday’s show. Another this afternoon and then the big clean-up and decoration as my brother returns from New York on Tuesday and his bedroom is still covered in papercraft “ceramic” Christmas trees that I made for my first craft show last month. Unfortunately I only sold one so I will have to carefully wrap and find somewhere to store the other eleven, not an easy task.
    Then I shall head out with my 95 yo Dad, both masked up, to enjoy the Christmas offerings in local towns and hopefully not catch something else so we can enjoy an illness-free Christmas for once 🎄

    1. Sounds ike a lot of lovely traditions Nyck. And the best thing about paper is – it’ll keep until the next craft fair you attend xx

  10. I love that tradition and meaning behind the candles. It is so nice to go back to the roots of the traditions which can get lost in the commercial aspects of holidays. Our family traditions were to put up the Christmas tree on Dec 1st so we enjoyed the whole month of the season. I have 2 boxes of Christmas ornaments from my Grandparents. They are so fine and delicate. I think they were purchased in the 1920s or 1930s at the latest. We still continued the tradition of having stockings even up until my Mom died at the age of 96 in 2024. We had a stocking for everyone. It was always fun finding unique little items and or course the orange and a piece of chocolate were always part of it.

  11. Every year the same ornaments go on the tree, some of them were made by my children some 40 years ago. They are a bit tatty but they still go on the tree. Many years ago when the “Twas the Night” Groovi plates came out I made by granddaughters a book with the poem and pictures in with space at the end for memories. Many years later they still read it on Christmas Eve and write their thoughts and wishes in the book. I have now made books for my great nieces and nephews using the Groovi printed pages, with instructions to add their bit at the end of the book each year. Hopefully in many years to come they will look back fondly on what they have written.

  12. It’s been really nice to read about yours and others’ Christmas traditions, they all sound so lovely. We just have the traditional Christmas dinner that most other families have, and I would ALWAYS put an apple and an orange in my daughters’ Christmas stocking, even when they were full grown adults!
    Four years ago I crafted an advent calendar each for my girls, (age 30 and 27 at the time!). They are just inexpensive mdf ones, but I spent hours, (weeks actually,) painting and decorating them. They have a drawer for each day and I’ve filled them with knick-knacks, love, and the odd joke every year since. I hope that they’ll become a tradition for them to fill for their children in years to come.
    Jane xx

  13. As a Christian I mark the 4 Sundays in advent with a candle but for the other side of me who has always loved Christmas and the magic that comes with it I have a small hand cut tree my husband did for me and I created 25 little ‘baubles’ from fimo and hang one each day with a star for Christmas day.
    At church we have just created the road to Bethlehem ready for 130 children to visit over the next two days for the story of the first Christmas and a craft to go along side …. worn out now and have to supervise the craft……

  14. Beautiful decoration. I’m not sure we have a lead up tradition except putting up the tree and lights in the window (Yet to do latter as we’re way this weekend so didn’t want them on all week and then off all weekend while we’re away – its a bit of a giveaway!) I do remember the Blue Peter advent candle decoration though – coathangers, tinsel and candles, we never made one and now sounds a lethal combination ! We’ll be home tomorrow so the lights will go up. Need to finish off some boxes for 4 angels waiting for great nieces and nephews.

    I do have two ‘ Babycham’ deers that were my Nan’s and they come out every year ! So that might be my tradition 😹. Oh and opening a box of biscuits for my Christmas Day breakfast !

    Hope you’ve had a lovely weekend xx

  15. LOVE THIS BLOG it is so nice to hear about other people’s traditions and festivities.
    When I was a small child Christmas was magical. Nan and Grandad had a huge tree, fully decorated, and all the aunts, uncles and cousins gathered together for the day. Grandad dressed up as Santa, and we all had a wonderful time. As we grew up the occasion became a bit of a damp squib as mother wasn’t bothered with it any more. I left home at 20 and tried to revive that warm feeling for my friends and acquaintances. I love to cook so entertaining was a joy. I tried to keep a good Christmas all through my first marriage until he passed. Now I am married to a lovely man who loves the season as much as I do and we start the festivities on 1st December and carry it through until 12th night. Unfortunately we have both had serious health issues this year but are undaunted and will do the best we can together as always.
    Wishing everyone a MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR.

  16. I have also had the whole day at home – much needed after 2 busy days with family and friends which was lovely but I needed to calm my mind and body. How lovely to read about your beautiful advent llead up to Christmas – the little figurines are adorable. I love having a candle lit almost every day of the year – I just find it very peaceful to watch the flame and if it’s fragranced to smell the fragrance gently spreading through the room or house. It will be so lovely having your beautiful children home with you at this special time. Look forward to seeing you in The Shac in the morning. Much love xXx 🦋💕

  17. Your little musicians are lovely. Every year I send advent candles to each of my grandchildren and they light them every evening at the dinner table. I usually send some chocolate too which I know goes down well. It has become a precious tradition/ritual for each family. When the candles arrive from granny they know it’s time to start counting the days. They are all pretty grown up now but they still love it. Happy Christmas. xx

  18. Your Adventskranz is beautiful!
    We light the advent candles on the wreath at church each Sunday.

    When our children were young, my Mum would make us a Christmas cake, the children would decorate it and then on Christmas Day morning we would light the candles and sing Happy Birthday to Jesus!!!

  19. Barbara, thank you so much for your countdown blogs. I appreciate and admire all your time and energy writing each day. Your writings are brilliant to read. Each one is special and I am always inspired and learn something new.
    Your star that you share about today is beautiful. Love reading about the meaning.
    Traditions nothing like your special star. Might be time to look for something to start for next Christmas ( better late than never). Traditions are my family getting together to decorate the tree and spending Christmas Day together. Christmas crafting times with my mom was a tradition – special times/memories. Since her passing this is on pause. My goal is get started again next year. Thank you Barbara for your positivity, creativity and building community. You and your team are truly amazing. Merry Christmas to the Clarity Team.

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